Words of affirmation might not be your child’s love language, but that doesn’t mean that they don’t need to hear words of encouragement and praise. It can be hard to express love for our children through verbal phrases when we’re so used to doing instead of saying. They say actions speak louder than words, but sometimes words still need to be heard by our little ones. If you have a son, then here are five powerful phrases that every boy wants to hear.
I love you
It might sound like a no brainer, of course, you love them! However, we often don’t say I love you nearly enough to those we care about. Love and mushy stuff are often seen as feminine and not “manly” feelings. However, boys can be quite sensitive and need to be told that they are loved. I love you means so much more when it is said out loud than when it’s written in a note, or done with a gesture.
I am happy to be with you or do ___ with you
Words of affirmation don’t just include words of endearing or praise. They also need to be told that you like to spend time with them and do things with them. Remind them that doing those activities makes you just as happy and that you can’t wait to do it again.
I’m really proud of the way you did ____
Praise can go a long way and is a great way to show that special man in your life how much you care about him. By sharing things that make you proud, you are acknowledging their accomplishments and encouraging them to keep doing them in the future.
I am proud of the person you are
Girls aren’t the only people who feel a little self conscience. Guys can also feel this in a big way. They are often more competitive and feel like they need to do more in order for you to feel proud of them. Remind them that you are proud of not only the person they are but the person that they are becoming as well. These words of affirmation will help them with confidence and remind them that they are okay just the way they are.
Life isn’t always going to be easy, sometimes it will be hard work
Life is pretty unfair sometimes. People pass without a moments notice, things fail no matter how many times you check back over them to make sure it’s done right. Some things are just out of your control! It’s important to remind them that sometimes life is going to be hard work, but it will all be worth it in the end. Sometimes you may have to work harder than anyone else to achieve your goals, but that’s okay.
It’s easy to get caught up in loving actions that we forget to say these powerful phrases to the young men in our lives. Keep these powerful phrases handy, and remember to tell them to your son.